By all accounts, I was a real smartass as a teenager.
There really is no difference between the bully and the victim.
-Lady Gaga
By all accounts, I was a real smartass as a teenager.
One favorite and reoccurring smartass remark I remember well is that whenever my parents blamed something on “they” I would inevitably ask, who is they? The conversations would go something like this.
Mom: “I can’t believe how much we spend on gas. 95 cents a gallon! Unbelievable.”
Dad: “Well, you know how they are, they got to make their God-damned money.”
Mom: “Yes. I know. They just don’t care. Nothing we can do about it.”
Me: “Who is they? And do they make you drive that big yellow 4×4 truck and that Mustang with a 302 V8?”
Mom: “Stop being a smart ass. You know what we mean.”
I never really understood that my parents were behaving like victims. I just thought that I was a smartass. However, I now understand that I did adopt some of their victimhood mentality. Fortunately, not all of my role models as a child played the victim. Somewhere along the line I developed a self-reliance that I believe has allowed me to overcome most of my learned victomhood, and later I developed my sense of gratitude that seems to have enabled me to effectively recognize and overcome the remaining tendencies that still arise in me from time to time.
Most if not all of this personal growth was unconscious to me as it occurred over the course of about thirty years. I became aware of it only after frequent observation of the victimhood mentality in others, such as US Foreign Policy, Israeli Foreign Policy, Venezuela’s Presidents, my alcoholic brother, my problem customers, my former business partner, etc. My desire to understand victimhood behavior recently led me to read a book with a title that would have normally put me off, Real Love and Freedom for the Soul – Eliminating the Chains of Victimhood, by Greg Baer, M.D.
Here is the description from Amazon:
At the root of all our anger, our feelings of separation from each other, and our problems in relationships is our belief that we have been victimized: we believe we have been hurt, slighted, or treated unfairly in some way. In Real Love and Freedom for the Soul you will learn about this disease of victimhood. As you read Real Love and Freedom for the Soul, you will learn the real reason you often feel angry and resentful toward other people, how you can eliminate the anger that is destroying your individual happiness and your relationships, why businesses often fail, why so many of our children are angry and rebellious, the real cause of racial prejudice in the world, and how you can achieve a level of freedom and peace you never before imagined possible. With Real Love, nothing else matters; without it, nothing else is enough.
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